My rule is to NEVER take the phone when I'm with friends, not when it's nothing important and I can read on the phone who is calling. It's rude, rude, rude, rude and people should fuck off doing this. Whenever I have to take the phone when someone are with me, I always feel embarrassed and I tell the person in the phone that I'm busy and that I call them later. Call me a sissy. A few years ago I did get myself a cellphone, I thought it would be very useful when you are not home and need to make a call and of course it is. However, people abuse this tool and they dont use it for what it was invented to be used for, they use it like a drug that detach them from normal conversation. I mean, sometimes you cant talk to a person for five minutes without it getting spasm from being away from the phone for too long. Relationships is not the same thing when a drug enters and we should all turn our phones off, our chat rooms on the computer and look away from the TV when we talk to someone.
People tend to talk negatively of drugs in itself and I agree with them, the kind of drugs that will eventually make you look like a loser and then kill you are obviously bad for you. We talk negatively about it's people and we commercialize our positive and healthy opinions on drugs where ever we can. Think about it for one moment, doesn't a lot of so called healthy and successful people have their drugs too? Their message seem to be; if it doesn't make you look like a loser and it doesn't kill you, then the drug is a cool thing to make popular and take advantage of. If we found a new kind of heroin tomorrow, one that didn't kill you, one that made you cool, funny and most of all one that made you popular, wouldn't these kind of people use it. Even if it made them lose intimacy with people?
Just think about it, just because we live in the popularity culture doesn't mean we have to be rude or stupid. Just because you have so many friends, shouldn't have to mean that you cant take off a few hours in a year to turn off the "drug thing" and be with a friend you hardly ever see. Just because you were fostered by people that only thought you common sense of personal survival, but not to think a little deeper than that, shouldn't have to mean that someone shouldn't knock you in the head and try to enliven you later. Fuck you all! I wish I dared to tell you in real life, but I was rased to be polite and sweet and try to understand people before I judge them. If I could do it right now, I would destroy all the cellphones and we would pick flowers and love eatch other again... Yeah, right... Of course, there would be others things then, people would find other simular things to abuse, that would have the same effect... So fuck it all.
No one are perfect, but a lot of people are ignorant and selfish... I do try to understand you though, I'm a Good girl see and I think about what people are. I dont rush trough life like it was some kind of roller coaster. It doesn't make me better, but maybe it makes me more aware. In this case, this is what I came up with, the list you see here is all the happy cellphone people in small packages. It's very sad and you might want to cry a little, because I'm such a "nazi" in my heart, behind the kind excuses there and because you never knew me...
They are all here in Kristina's head.
These are the cellphone people, by number and boxes I've put them in. I dont think it's fun, it's not my kind of black humour, it's not my way of making fun of people either. It's the way I see things and you may be offended or agree with me. Just remember; I would never tell you in person, if I knew you, what box I have put you in, I will never do that. Some people dont fit into these boxes at all, they are free to fly around and do their art and dont belong in my boxes. I dont look down on anyone, cellphone human or alien, I see you for what you are and we all play our parts.
1. THE ICON OF CELLPHONES: This abuser belongs to the popularity culture and the commercials. It lives in center of things and help the cellphone sale just by being itself. It's the cancer in the system, the one that makes it all go around. It's the trend-setter of cellphone abusers. The Icon tells people who they really are and in that way it's not so terrible as the other promoters. It glitters with a shiny surface and a fakeness that runs from personality to apperance. It's the sad image, that makes the wise change their minds.
IT SAYS: The cellphones promote individualism and people become more aware of the unique sides in everyone because of it. The little device can match every small detail in your personality with their colors, ringtones and logos, the things it cannot express isn't really interesting to know about. You can just look at peoples cellphones and then know everything about them. It's the fresh new dating tool of today, a popular pick up line is; -'Would you like to come home with me and look at my cellphone collection'. The cellphones are a way for the collectible nerds to show their creativity, because the more cellphones you have, the more charisma you get. You should at least have over ten different cellphones to be able to call yourself a collector and a promoter of the strange, cool and individualistic. The cellphone makes people more social and happy.
2. THE UN-LOVED ABUSER: Thie un-loved is like the Unaware one, with some small differences. It's not necessarily as bored as the Unaware, but more overexposed to too many things at once. It abuse as much as it feels abused when being without it's toys. It's the rebel, that want to rebel because it doesn't know the difference between being spoiled and being loved. Rarely it manage to appreciate the things it rebel for and almost always it shows a lack of communicational skills. This abuser had most likely a negative childhood in some way, if it's not a teen. It suffers from selfishness, ignorance and a lack of education but most of all from the lack of care. It's more a victim, than it is an abuser. With age it often become The Unaware.
IT SAYS: For me the mobile cellphone is a great toy. After I bought one I felt I had found the inner child in me again. I used to be very shy about expressing my suppressed childishness, now I can sit in any kind of public place and loudly play and toy with my mobile cellphone. Some people think it's wrong to be immature and they want to suppress your colorful childishness by claiming that it annoys them to hear these ringtones all the time. I think we need to rebel, make a revolution out of it, a violent one, because I think the suppressed inner child should fight itself trough the surface with any kind of sharp ringtone noices it can possibly find. It will help us protect the innocence.
3. The WANNEBE ABUSER: This user is the only one of the cellphone users, that dont abuse, but get abused, by the cellphones and it's people. There are many variations of the Wannebe, but what they all have in common is innocence. They would necessarily fit better into another personality list, but since their crime support the cellphone abusers the Wannebe have a part in the abuse as well. They are the followers and the scapegoat for the smart and cunning. They are the once that dont fit in and they are often called nerds or losers. It is un-fair to look down on the Wannebe, as there are many of the other types that are looked up at, that dont really deserve the admiration.
IT SAYS: The mobile cellphone gave me a lot of friends, I used to be very lonely and alienated before I got the cellphone. Now I have a lot of friends and I dont feel different and strange anymore. I have so many that they dont even fit in my cellphone adress book, so I have to pick the most important friends and leave the other once out. All my friends have cellphones, if they didn't I wouldn't be able to remember that they existed, because I have them in my cellphone and it makes me feel that they belong to me and that I belong to them. The cellphone is a way for me to know that I'm not alone in this world, I think people love me trough it and it makes me feel special. There is a lot of compassion coming from those short SMS messages, they can express so much.
4. The UN-AWARE ABUSER: This abuser is unaware of it's abuse and therefor it should be considered more terrible than the others, generelly also because there are more of the Unaware abuser that there are of the other types. It never really live in the moment and in the rush trough life and dont pay much attention to it's surroundings. It's the stressed one, that cant relax and do one thing at the time. While The Wannebe is aware of it's insecurity and it's deep wish to belong, the Unaware is not. It lives only trough it's well chosen fundaments, things like education, work, family and friends. It doesn't like to be exposed to the more intimate and hidden things. Underneath it's unawareness it fears more than most. The unaware wears a cold mask with no expressions, but if it loses it, it will maybe show itself to be more aware than most.
IT SAYS: My cellphone got me in touch with music and now I buy ringtones every day. I have also become a musician because of my cellphone, because I create my own songs on the phone. I really see a future in my musical creations. The cellphone have given me the confidence I never had before. If you could buy top ten ring tones albums, I would be the first one to buy it. I think ringtones music are very underestimated, I mean it's not for the alternative people because it's not like it's some kind of weird underground music that no one will ever understand. Cellphone ringtones are global and userfriendly, I think we can call it pop music, or maybe tecno.
5. The RELIGIOUS ABUSER: The Religious abuser didn't just buy itself a cellphone, it also bought a religion. The cellphone is a part of a specific lifestyle and way of thinking. The naive and often extremely immature ways of this abuser makes it look like the Wannebe, but underneath the skin exisits a doubter that is more aware of lies and fakeness than most. It suffers with it's sensetive insecurity and inside itself it relax less than the others.
IT SAYS: The mobile cellphone gave me a life. I can now sit in front of the TV without having to leave when it rings. This means I get so much free time on my hands that I dont even know what to do with it. When I sit in my couch and watch TV I just have to pick it up from the table and click a button when it rings. They are great, I started to lose a lot of weight after I bought one and so can you! I mean it takes a lot of energy to use it and keep it in a good condition. It's not like a normal phone, because it has a little window on the front and you have to clean it, at least once a year. In the end of the day I'm very tired and I sleep better because of my cellphone.
6. THE MATERIALISTIC ABUSER: This is the worst of all the abusers. It probably teased the other kids in kindergarden, to show off it's powers. It was an opportunist and a gold mine seeker from an early age. Most people secrely admire the Materialistic abuser and see them as rolemodels. It uses size and value to prove it's status and it's moral is as big is a pea. Underneath the intellect and the fat charisma lies a poor soul. It's simular to the Icon in it's sad image and it often makes the Unaware more aware.
IT SAYS: I think the cellphone made me smarter, because they are a really just a small computer. Because of the cellphone type of tools, I started to get interested in computers and all sorts of fancy ways of communication. Before I got the cellphone, I used to be very bored, nowadays I can be occupied for hours with something, as long as it has buttons. People ask me for advise all the time and they usually think I have a University degree because of the cellphone. I bought myself a much bigger car after I got the cellphone, I needed something mobile and masculine that matched the phone and my inner strength. The cellphone in itself gave me a job.
7. The SICK ABUSER: This abuser have a disease and buying the cellphone makes it worse. The Sick Abuser is more abused than it abuse, because it's often unaware of the people that pull themselves away from them. Often it takes on the clothes of the Materialistic abuser, but underneath it all; it's not status it seeks, it's action. The sick abuser have no self-reliance and no self awareness. It cant communicate and never engage in personal conversations (unless it is with a psychiatric). It's a slave to the system and it's the user that finds it the most difficult to turn off the phone.
IT SAYS: My cellphone is my God in so many ways. I use it as a defense whenever I face a difficult person. I just pick it up and click on random buttons and act busy, it always break the conversation and the other person lose interest very fast. You can use the cellphone in all kinds of social situasions, to push people away from you and make them realice that you are not someone to mess with. The cellphone helps me to avoid eye contact with people I dont want to confront and it makes it easier to lie.
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