Do Ask & Tell!

One question; Do we ever criticise heterosexual culture enough? Or should we start criticise it more? You know, gay or not gay, people are so full of themselves it's not even funny. I was going to talk about this here awhile back, but then I forgot about it. Ultraconservative Christians and other trolls that don't want gays to be open about their sexuality, but they themselves wants to expose their heterosexual culture, sell it to the media, the popculture, the kids, as if it's anything at all to be proud of (?!). I have always though that race, sexuality, country and family was not my value in life; it's what you make of yourself as a person that is important.

I remember all the little and heavy arrogance in the news, it's never news really. The snobby folks that use the power they have in the media, to spit venom at people. I have noticed that in my country, we have become more open to gay and matured a bit further, than some other countries. I remember how a Christian minister lost his job here, because he talked negatively about gay. Though I also recall that not long ago, a man was kicked out of the Salvations Army, just because he decided to live in a gay relationship. It was amazing and very interesting and I would love to see a bigger interest, in the mindless comments that this military guy from USA, said about not wanting gay men in the army. Someone asked Bush about it and he said he agree with former President Clinton on this matter; The "Don't ask, don't tell" philosophy. How funny and how sad isn't that? I saw Bill O'reilly talked (cause yes I sometimes watch his pathetic show over the web) about this with a gay man, who had lost his job because he was gay. O'reilly of course, the crazy nutter, also agreed with Clinton's old little moral frame. But how is this possible, to be so stupid? Wouldn't you want to tell a friend some day, one day, that you were gay? or that you were a heterosexual? Wouldn't you want to tell someone? Who can keep such a thing private and still feel a meaning in their life? If you were a heterosexual male and found a girlfriend, would you love to live in a world, where you had to lie about your love for this girl? One thing is to want to keep your lovelife private, another thing is to feel, as if you have to be ashamed of it.

Gay parade is ok and fine and alright and good and I support it, from the depths of my little rebellious heart. I don't have to personally enjoy gay parade to like it, to feel romantic over it, to feel touched. For me it's not about the gay, it's about each and everyones freedom to be your own person, to live your own meaning. It's something I have always believed in.

Lets talk about pride. What a wonderful great empathy and human understanding, these anti-gay people have, with their overexposed heterosexuality and silly pride. You should understand that they feed in gay people, an anger and they will revolt by acting up; expressing that they are proud of being gay. It was the racists that isolated the races. They made black people create environments, behaviour and subcultures that have hurt blacks as individuals, for as long as the white have been there to suppress them. Many white people still today, think of black people as a criminal race, with criminal cultures. In so many places and in our modern societies, black people are seen as black, more than they are seen as individuals; individuals with different dreams, different goals and different talents. To be gay or black or white or whatever, doesn't say anything about who you are as a person. Black pride was born out of the violence towards black people, the fact that society said it wasn't as good as being white. On the bottom, at the end of everything; No race is worth being proud of, but many things in a person, is worth taking pride in. The good and valuable things that people are, doesn't lie in race, sexuality or ones position in life. When you take away everything a person have, when you push them in the dirt, they might start take pride in the little things they have, the only things they feel they can call their own. You can understand black pride and gay pride in this way, trough this you can even understand immature young nazis, that feel no belonging in the community. They stand out, create a pride in the only thing they feel they have: race, sexuality, or whatever. There are many different groups like this, what they have in common is that they felt a need, to feel special and valuable, a basic human need.

Pride is not needed in a free world, where everyone are equal. A place where nobody are viewed, as more worth than others. A world where people are seen, for their goodness and there's always something good about everyone.

I have never heard anyone complain, about materialistic heterosexual marriages bathed in vanity, smeared out onto newspapers, tv and it was always here forced onto kids from early childrens games, invented by adults to teach them; that your purpose in life as girl, was to find your man in shiny armour, the good masculine knight. As a boy it was the pretty kind decent girl. We are lead as sheeps to the slaughter, killing our individuality, destroying our reasons to exists in our own meaning, created by ourselves, not by the human culture we were brainwashed by.

It's right there you know, if Clinton and all these other powerful men, really meant what they expressed, then it's very hard for me to understand, how they could have been elected to make wise political decisions. It's right there you know, in that anti-gay opinion; idiocy and modern incompetence. I would never put my thumb up for any of them (but if I was an American, I would vote for Obama), much less have any whatsoever faith in what they do.

I haven't talked much about gay rights here before, but now is as good as any other time. This is something I care about a lot. Because in many ways, gay people are treated by the same ignorance, that black people used to be treated. Gay marriage today, is like the seats for whites only. Because there actually used to be, those kinds of things.

I happen to feel sympathetic towards people, that have to strave to feel accepted, all of these groups, strave for something that doesn't even have anything to do with who you are. And because of that, I can easily see that it could have been me, it could be me. It is me. Because you don't get to decide your race, sexuality or position in life. You can be born without a leg, you can have abusive parents, or be a dyslectic. It's not your choice, but civilization and the systems, can also let you suffer because of it. They can, because they will use it against you, so that they can feel better about themselves.

If you were born without a leg, the missing leg wouldn't be a shaper of your personality. The things you lack, are not you. Some dyslectic people might be good at something, that the school tend to overlook. Just because your parents were abusive, doesn't mean that you will become an abusive adult. But these things can be a major problem, when the world are not willing to help, or be a support. Where there is neglect and ignorance, there is also a lot of suffering. A missing leg will become a huge burden, if everything is build upon stairs. I have felt this myself, as I used to sit in a wheelchair, when I was younger. The systems always loved to ignore my needs, it was a bitter lonely fight against people, that had no understanding and no willpower to change anything.

Some people will not learn what it means to strave, or feel that you are a failure and a burden to the society. They don't understand, because they don't have the experience, insight or desire to learn. Maybe they received good grades in school, maybe life gave them diplomas and an audience of applause. Maybe they grew to imagine, that this is what life is all about. And people will love you, because you fit to be loved, with all your great talents... But this is not what life is about. All stages have backstages. And charm is not about good looks, or fitting in.

The most important things in life, are the things you have to experience, or open up to. It will not be fun and they might not give you golden treasures or diplomas to hang. But the most important things you learn, will make you grow. It will show you the better you. The you that are not painted, by the years of running away from fear. The fear of facing life, with all it's sides. In the end, you will feel more warm about people. You will feel more sympathetic towards them, in ways you couldn't imagine. And it will be the most intellectual part of yourself. The side of you that wants to understand. People that fail to help someone in need, because they wouldn't even try, also fail to help themselves. They fail on an important lesson in life.

Gay people will be able to get married, it's just a matter of when it will be legal. Marriage is not something that was invented by the Christians. It's something that exist in a lot of different cultures, times and beliefs. The Church will be separated from the government, it's just a matter of time. The Christian Church should not be regarded as a public pub then. If they want, they can make it into a secret closed club. Like knitting clubs for women, no men allowed. They could go there, being a mirror of all the members. Not feeling threatened by differences. Always get a smile and a nod as a reply, to all your words and opinions. I am not a Christian but if I was, I would still never put my foot in a Church that doesn't welcome everyone.

Group mentality, culture mentality, or whatever you want to call it; kettle mentality maybe; it never helps anyone, not even your own group. Because the planet consists of many billions groups; races, cultures, religions and traditions, so you might aswell give up your fight against other groups. It's not a loss, it's a win. Because life here on this place, isn't about you and your family; it's about us all. It's about the people you disagree with, those you dislike. Life is about trying to find a way to get along. It's only idiots that doesn't get this.